tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4155770613355202151.post6685510026863500094..comments2024-03-27T19:02:41.430+05:30Comments on Kamal Shah's Blog: My friend, the bachelorKamal D Shahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10671037449347982821noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4155770613355202151.post-27436365077591112752009-10-01T06:56:14.910+05:302009-10-01T06:56:14.910+05:30I totally understand what you're saying Anonym...I totally understand what you're saying Anonymous.<br /><br />@Madras Hash: I was kidding btw when I added myself to the list of bachelors. Marriage is quite a complicated institution in itself. I am not sure I can handle it in my circumstances.Kamal D Shahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671037449347982821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4155770613355202151.post-9751526188869880972009-10-01T03:30:13.705+05:302009-10-01T03:30:13.705+05:30I am on IHD. I read some of your post, thought you...I am on IHD. I read some of your post, thought you were very witty and decided to check out your site. <br /><br />I disagree with most of what Madras said. Though an illness should not be defining, sometimes the treatments is. I have been around diabetes my whole life, (father and grandfather) I am highly allergic to everything. <br /><br />I have Lupus that has caused my Kindney failure. I spend 9hrs a night doing PD and countless time trying to keep my levels where they need to be. It defines what I eat and where I sleep, how I travel, Work/shcool, relationships of all kinds. It changes the dynamics of a persons life. BTW I haven't even mentioned energy levels. The way I see it is the Kidneys are busy lil bees, I scramble around to do 15% of what they used to.<br /><br />Before the actual failing of my busy bees, I was still in kidney failure, still had other chronic conditions, that may land me in the ER every once in a while. I felt very lil restriction because of this. People die more frequently from Dialysis complications than form the actual disease.<br /><br />(My rant continues) Dialysis defines me, it consumes and dictates much of what I do. Just as a family or a job would. My high blood pressure, asthma, and allergies are drastically less defining, almost miniscule in comparison.<br /><br />Dialysis is a great big unknown and therefore scary. Speaking as a single woman, I know I would love to have some help in the daily things I tackle, and even more so would really like to share the struggles, fears, changes both good and bad with someone. It is not an easy role for a partner, no matter how well the said patient has adapted to their life sustaining treatment. <br /><br />Formerly scared of blood and needles,<br />co IHD memberAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4155770613355202151.post-86822392587029832502009-09-30T19:19:11.950+05:302009-09-30T19:19:11.950+05:30@s: Hmmm, I'm not so sure@s: Hmmm, I'm not so sureKamal D Shahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671037449347982821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4155770613355202151.post-17734696553492636492009-09-30T10:32:54.630+05:302009-09-30T10:32:54.630+05:30I think I know who Mr.Nice, Mr. SCDAFF and Mr.Mast...I think I know who Mr.Nice, Mr. SCDAFF and Mr.Masti are.snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4155770613355202151.post-1402219535428138662009-09-30T08:31:29.642+05:302009-09-30T08:31:29.642+05:30I would not restrict the "search" to a g...I would not restrict the "search" to a girl on dialysis, tho' if you put out the description on a Dating/Matrimonial site, you will probably get a 1000 hits from all over the world.<br /><br />Living with a person on home dialysis is probably not much more different than living with a person with Type 1 Diabetes and having a insulin pump strapped on 24 x 7. Or a person will am alergic condition where almost anything - including a change in in temp from the 22 to 26 C band will trigger off a reaction that will need Emergency Care in a hospital.<br /><br />You are, in a sense, stigmatising yourself. You live with a condition but that does not describe you. Wake up and look at yourself with the eyes of a young girl yearning for a person with a large "we know what", and a personality & attitude which brings sunshine in her life. She is probably looking for a person who sees her for what she is, not what you want her to be, or your parents, neighbours and friends want her to be.<br /><br />There are plenty of women out there scared to get married, not knowing what they are in for.<br /><br />The only condition you may want her to meet is: not scared to canulate or see the sight of blood. That rules me out, unfortunately!Madras Hashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13140992248395169199noreply@blogger.com